Paloma AlvesPaloma Alves2017-01-26Day 19. The media always focus on what is bad, but for every bad news story there are thousands of good stories that you never hear about. Everywhere in the world people come together, regardless of age, religion or background, to help people that they don’t even know. Look for the hidden heroes, and be inspired by them. Hidden heroes save lives so there will be less bad news stories to tell. They are ordinary people like you and me, and they make a huge difference, so don’t feel discouraged by the bad news, look for the contrasts.
Suzanne Bernier, spent 4 years traveling around the world to look for these people, and she wrote a book about them, called ‘Disaster Heroes’. These are her exact words: “There are no borders when it comes to helping others. When it comes to being heroes and it comes to disasters we all come together. It really shows our basic human instinct. We have a natural instinct to come together and help others in times of need and during disasters.” That’s it for today. Have a wonderful Thursday – look for the helpers in the periphery, because they are always there – and remember the bystander effect, action is key. https://scontent.cdninstagram.com/t51.2885-15/e35/16123940_141128973059536_1037943688199667712_n.jpg2017-01-26
Paloma AlvesPaloma Alves2017-01-25Day 18. We have a hero challenge for you today, and it’s to do something nice for someone everyday for 21 days. It doesn’t have to be anything big. - You could give someone a compliment. - Make them feel special. - Send them a text with some kind words. - Give clothes you don’t use for charity. - Smile to several people on the street. - Stand up for someone being bullied at school. - Or if people are talking about someone behind their back. (You continue the list)
Tip: Set your phone to remind you everyday, so you don’t forget.
Why do it for 21 days?
According to research, it takes 21 days to change a habit, and further 10 weeks to make those new good habits you created, become autopilot. After that it will be integrated in your personality, and it will be something you do automatically. Our aim is to help you create, those social hero habits.
It requires some of your attention though, because when you do something new, you have to make an effort to stay on track. Your brain wants to use as little energy as possible, so it will be easy to forget to do this. Since we think 60.000 thoughts a day, this challenge could drown in those thoughts, therefore I would recommend you to make a plan, write down every morning, what you are going to do for others.
Remember that heroes are ordinary people who do extraordinary things. It’s the act that is extraordinary. Have a wonderful Wednesday. heroesherochallengeheroicimaginationprojecthipheroesintrainingawarenesshumanityismybusinesshttps://scontent.cdninstagram.com/t51.2885-15/e35/16230309_744090939082065_1032749586680119296_n.jpg2017-01-25
Paloma AlvesPaloma Alves2017-01-24Day 17. Good morning dear heroes, today I will encourage you to reflect and ask yourself these questions, and afterwards be curious about others: Ask your family members, friends or colleges. Write it down if you want. This will give you some inspiration, and help you achieve that heroic mindset and put you in a position to make those changes. Please feel free to write your thoughts and answers as a comment if you want to share – we love the get inspired by you. - What is really important to you?
- What would you try if you knew you could not fail?
- Think about your perfect world.
- How could you work towards making some of these changes? - The people behind ‘heroes in training’ will be doing the same. Everyday we follow these challenges ourselves. Have a wonderful heroic Tuesday. https://scontent.cdninstagram.com/t51.2885-15/e35/16110337_155155661648475_6620009659430338560_n.jpg2017-01-24
Paloma AlvesPaloma Alves2017-01-23Day 16. We might think that, we have to be good at things before we start, or sometimes we might say things like: “Tomorrow I’m going to do it”, and then you keep saying that over and over again, and it never happens. Life rewards action. Change does not come without it. All the knowledge you have is useless without action. Imagine that.. So what are you going to do dear heroes?
So many times in our lives we think that when everything is in alignment, and everything is perfect ‘I’m going to do that great heroic thing’. That’s never going to happen. Action is key, you have to step out of your comfort zone and begin now. Life does not begin when everything is perfect, when you get that dream job, when you get the house, the car, the significant other, that body, that education. Life is now, don't wait for those things, don't wait for Friday, for the weekend, for vacation, because when you wait you die a little inside. Time seems to go slower, and the days becomes something to just get over with, so you can wake up and get it over and done with again and again until it's Friday. It doesn't have to be that way. Make your days, make everyday good for you and good for others.
My point is that It’s good to be ambitious, but perfectionism can also keep you from doing what you want, don’t let it. Start somewhere and work your way from there. Give. Do something nice for someone today and don't expect anything back. It's so much better to give than to get. And give yourself a good life, so you can be better for others. When you change, your surroundings change, because you have an impact on other people, and those people have an impact on others and so on. Make this Monday so good it feels like Friday. https://scontent.cdninstagram.com/t51.2885-15/e35/16123859_367989683568375_7942563199495176192_n.jpg2017-01-23
Paloma AlvesPaloma Alves2017-01-20Day 15. It’s all about focus. If you focus on the color blue, you will see everything that’s blue, if you focus on the color yellow, you will see everything that’s yellow, and automatically erase everything that you were not focusing on. Your brain helps you, to find what you are thinking about.
Here is some wisdom from Mother Theresa:
“I was once asked, why don’t I participate in anti-war demonstrations. I said, I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace rally, I’ll be there.”
Your thoughts are your focus and your focus determine your life. Therefore, it’s so important to be aware of where your focus is, what thoughts you have. Focus on the solutions, and less on the problems, because what you focus on, grows. The more you think about finding solutions, the more you will go in that direction of doing something about it. Taking action is key. Have a wonderful weekend dear heroes, see you next Monday. https://scontent.cdninstagram.com/t51.2885-15/e35/16122892_366356380406956_7663234984878014464_n.jpg2017-01-20
Paloma AlvesPaloma Alves2017-01-19Day 14. How do we cultivate empathy? What can we do to make a difference? How can we help as many people as possible to understand, that the real glue that holds a nation, a society together is the ability to feel for another human being? Even though 98% of us are born with the capacity to feel empathy, it’s not a guarantee. Empathy has to be nurtured and developed. And heroism has to be trained. Noble people have learned habits that activated their courage. It’s not enough to have the desire to help, even though it’s good and it motivates us. If you only have that, you are just a bystander with good intentions, the one that really wants to help, but just stand there and watch bad things happen. Therefore it’s important to learn skills to be able to help. And it doesn’t have to be huge things. Sometimes it’s small actions that make a big difference, remember Rosa Parks, who sat down and refused to get up?
Abraham Lincoln memorized quotes from Shakespeare, during his darkest hours, others has memorized philosophical stanzas. People, who acted altruistic, had made a pledge. They had a code of conduct: “I’m going to see that person not as a stranger but as a member of the human race”. In this way you decide that no matter what happens you will help, that person. It’s a good thing to have a code of conduct, so when you are in a situation where somebody needs your help, you don’t have to make a decision under pressure, you have already prepared yourself.
It could also be “Humanity is my business” or “xxx” whatever you like. What is your code of conduct? Feel free to steal these and use them as your own. Have a wonderful day, make people care. ☺ https://scontent.cdninstagram.com/t51.2885-15/e35/16110899_179652719179628_6761774723006201856_n.jpg2017-01-19
Paloma AlvesPaloma Alves2017-01-18Day 13. Everyone has different levels of potential and opportunities, so how can we as individuals achieve our personal best? It depends on your mindset. Your beliefs and ways of thinking determine, how you behave. In this post I’ll explain what a fixed and growth mindset is about.
Fixed mindset: People with a fixed mindset believe that skills and intelligence are fixed. Either you have it or you don’t. Some people are just naturally good at things, while others are not. In short, they believe that you are not in control of your abilities. Furthermore, people with a fixed mindset are concerned about looking bad. They hate making mistakes because then you are not looking good.
Fixed mindset keywords for beliefs and focus: - Skills are born. - You are not in control of your abilities.
- Shy away from putting effort.
- See challenges as a threat.
- It’s about looking good and how other people perceive you.
- It’s about being superior, and better than others. - Must be perfect.
- Discouraged by mistakes.
- Get defensive when receiving feedback.
- Threatened by others success.
- Look for others who did worse.
Growth mindset: These people believe that skills and intelligence are grown and developed. Therefore, they believe that people, who are good at something, are good because they worked for it, and people who are not, haven’t put the effort into it. They believe that you are in control of your abilities.
Growth mindset key words for beliefs and focus:
- Skills are made. - You are in control of your abilities.
- Putting effort leads to growth.
- Embrace and work through challenges – see it as an opportunity to get better.
- Take risks. - See mistakes as a learning opportunity – mistakes are important in their process to grow, therefore they engage deeply in their process of error. - Feel inspired by the success of others.
- Appreciate feedback and use it.
- Focus on getting better instead of looking good.
- Focus on the learning process instead of perfection.
- Does not compare themselves with others, but has a competition with themselves.
Know that, you are not just one or the other. This is a spectrum. https://scontent.cdninstagram.com/t51.2885-15/e35/16123922_987023238098002_1143342305902592000_n.jpg2017-01-18
Paloma AlvesPaloma Alves2017-01-17Day 12.
Habits of a hero:
- Help people to make better choices.
- Have a strong sense of community and team work mentality.
- Give yourself a better life, so you can help others.
- Everyone matters.
- Don’t try to save others, but help them take personal responsibility for their own lives.
- Keep yourself motivated and don’t give up.
- Victim mentality will never get you anywhere. Know that you have the power to succeed. When you know that you have the power to intervene, you are more likely to get out of the bystander effect and engage. You become the person others admire, instead of someone others feel sorry for.
- Have a good self-esteem.
- Have self-efficacy, believe in yourself.
- And finally helpers want people to succeed in life, they want to support and help people reach their goals. Have a wonderful Tuesday. tuesdayheroheroisminspirationalquotesheroichabitsmotivationself-esteemhelpingpositiveteamworkequalityhttps://scontent.cdninstagram.com/t51.2885-15/e35/15875943_1209224552495308_6638917677425360896_n.jpg2017-01-17
Paloma AlvesPaloma Alves2017-01-16Day 11. Dear heroes. Today is about being aware of our extended time-horizon, and what the consequences of our actions in this particular moment may mean, in the future. Be engaged in the current situation that requires your help and action, but also use your analytical focus, to imagine alternative future scenarios, that might play out, depending on different actions and failures. When we act in the present, we should also keep part of our mind in the past, this may help us recall values and teachings from other thinkers or events that, could inform and help us in our current situation. So be aware of the extended time-horizon, don’t only act on impulse and fear, include learned lessons from the past, imagine different fallouts and consequences, all after how we choose to act. Make your Monday no less than wonderful. heroicimaginationprojecthipheroismheroesmondayawarenesstimehorizoninspirationalinspirationalquotesnaturehttps://scontent.cdninstagram.com/t51.2885-15/e35/15876097_367537176948684_4209503382454403072_n.jpg2017-01-16
Paloma AlvesPaloma Alves2017-01-13Day 10. Good morning dear heroes. Today I want you to keep one thing in mind – Don’t Be A Bystander. Paradoxically, when we are in a emergency situation, the more people there are present the less likely anyone is to help. This is called the bystander effect. If everybody thinks that someone else will take responsibility, then nothing will happen. The minute someone starts to help, in seconds that help is expanded. It’s a social norm not act, but when someone breaks this social norm of doing nothing, they create a new norm of doing something. Remember this. And how awesome wouldn’t it be, if you were the first to do exactly that? Be that person, be the one that gives a helping hand.
Few people do evil and even fewer people act heroically, and between these two extremes there are the masses, the general population who do nothing, they are the ‘reluctant heroes’. When you refuse to act, you implicitly support the perpetrators of evil, even though you silently think that what they are doing is wrong. If you do not say something, if you do not act, you are part of the majority who makes evil more acceptable: Who makes discrimination more acceptable, bullying, violence, racism, war, the list is long. You/the masses have enormous resources at hand to do good, if we just had the courage to use it. Take care of each other out there, even if you don’t know them. Have a good weekend and act heroically 😊 heroicimaginationprojectheroismhipbystanderherohttps://scontent.cdninstagram.com/t51.2885-15/e35/15802853_304364186626788_2818360314184073216_n.jpg2017-01-13
Paloma AlvesPaloma Alves2017-01-12Day 9. “Altruism is born of suffering” – Dalai Lama writes about it, and psychologists has made research on this as well. People who have suffered, feels more connected to others and are therefore more likely to help. I don’t think anyone goes through life without getting burned, everybody goes through suffering in one way or another.
Because there are so many people out there with similar pain, I believe that if we turn the obstacles we have been through, and the pain from the past into a heroic quest to help others, then you could in a unique way be able to connect with others and provide exactly the help they need to get through their obstacles. For instance, If I had not been through my own suffering, I don’t think I would have felt so strongly about volunteering at this point in my life, also I feel uniquely equipped to understand their pain and provide my help, because I found my way out and know how to get through it. Even though my way might not apply to many people, it means the world to me if I manage to help just 1 person – I can’t describe the happiness I feel when that happens.
I have an example from a talk that I felt very inspired by: “You walk into a street and fall into a hole, and two people offers to help. One of them was a renowned scientist, who had written a paper on the dynamics of holes, and the other was just an average person, who had fallen into the same hole himself, and was offering to climb back down, grab your hand and lead you out the same way that he found. Whose help would you want?” What are you good at, and how can you use it to help others? There is many ways to be a hero, what is yours? Make this Thursday awesome 🙂 psychologyheroesheroismhipheroicimaginationprojectdalailamaempathyaltruismsufferinggreenleavesnaturehttps://scontent.cdninstagram.com/t51.2885-15/e35/15876714_698895190276907_5752475924050214912_n.jpg2017-01-12
Paloma AlvesPaloma Alves2017-01-11Day 8. Everything is made of thoughts. Think about it for a moment. The clothes you wear, buildings, movies, furniture etc. Everything that was made by humans started with an idea/a thought. Someone thought, that the shoes you are wearing would be a design that many people would like to buy, so it was drawn, manufactured and sold to the stores. Maybe you took an specific education because you had thought about it a lot, or you considered going in another direction because you had envisioned something else, or you furnished your home in a certain way because you thought it would look nice. For instance, when I walked on this beach I thought this would be a beautiful picture. What I want to say is that - your thoughts decide how you feel, and your feelings impact how you act. Therefore it’s important to be aware of your thoughts. Your thoughts are an amazing and strong tool, never underestimate the power of it. If you visualize yourself helping others in need, doing good things for others, doing heroic deeds, or begin to think of yourself as an everyday hero, this will make you act like one. challengeheroicimaginationprojecthipheroismheroesbeachthoughtscognitivepsychologyhttps://scontent.cdninstagram.com/t51.2885-15/e35/15875907_132363100599597_751017504637190144_n.jpg2017-01-11
Paloma AlvesPaloma Alves2017-01-10Day 7. There is a variety of ways you can act heroically, and this is just one out of many. Nevertheless it’s an important one. - Make other people feel special, ask questions, listen to them, remember what they say or something they have said for a long time ago, remember their names, give them compliments both externally and internally. Believe in their abilities, their dreams, even if they might seem unsure of being able to achieve these goals. Encourage them, instead of doubting them: Say – I believe in you. There might be things that you are not good at, but you could be. You can do almost anything with practice, determination and dedication. It sounds cheesy but it’s true. Choose at least one person that you would try this on today (Don’t tell them about it). When people are seen by others they blossom. heroicimaginationprojectchallengehipheroismheroesspecialflowerwildflowersbelievehttps://scontent.cdninstagram.com/t51.2885-15/e35/15802134_1486083744756995_2053876686914584576_n.jpg2017-01-10
Paloma AlvesPaloma Alves2017-01-09Day 6. Dear heroes, today I want you to be courageous. Do something today that is a bit out of your comfort zone. I will actually encourage you to do something you are a bit afraid of everyday. This will build up your self-confidence and make you mentally stronger.
Let me explain: If we imagine that our comfort zone is a green circle in the middle, our self-development circle around it is yellow, and lastly the circle around the yellow one is red and called the danger-zone. Sometimes when we step into the yellow zone, we might feel like we are in the danger zone, but really we are just challenging ourselves in a good way – your yellow zone is where amazing things in your life will happen, if you dare. So learn to control your fear, and train yourself to act despite of it. Courage means to cross the bridge even though you are afraid of doing it. I’m not saying that you should do what makes you the most afraid, all the time but start small. Have the greatest Monday ever! You decide how awesome it’s going to be. courageactionheroismheroicimaginationcomfortzonechallengeheroexerciseselfesteemselfconfidencehttps://scontent.cdninstagram.com/t51.2885-15/e35/15876586_1060967744012263_5945608869500682240_n.jpg2017-01-09
Paloma AlvesPaloma Alves2017-01-06Day 5. Todays’ exercise is about doing what is right, when others are doing the wrong thing, or doing nothing. It’s about building up, our internal strength and self-assurance to be able to stand firm for the moral and ethical values we love and cherish. It is necessary to develop personal hardiness so you can be guided by your own moral compass, in uncertain situations that is new and unknown to you. Challenge other people to support their own moral values as well, and don’t be afraid of interpersonal conflicts, be willing to accept these conflicts, because heroic decisions are often controversial. In other words go against the flow. Make this Friday amazing - train your heroic imagination and your awareness, be critical and trust in your own moral compass. Have a good weekend everybody. strenghtmoralitycompassfridayawarenessblueskyexerciseheroesheroismhipheroicimaginationprojectchallengehttps://scontent.cdninstagram.com/t51.2885-15/e35/15801854_866051546867987_4916392949983477760_n.jpg2017-01-06
Paloma AlvesPaloma Alves2017-01-05Day 4. Hello there heroes and heroines. Yesterday I encouraged you to practice your awareness. Today I will continue, taking our awareness to the next level by developing our discontinuity detector. My intention with this is to become aware of things that don’t fit, are out of place or don’t make sense in a setting. Remain mindful, and critically evaluate every situation you encounter, so that you don’t skate over an emergency requiring your action. Do this as often as you can, train your discontinuity detector - be critical, especially in new and unknown situations, follow your moral compass, ask questions to get the information you need to take responsible action. Have fun! awarenessdiscontinuityhipheroicimaginationheroesheroinestrainingmoralcompasspuddleskyrainbeautifulhttps://scontent.cdninstagram.com/t51.2885-15/e35/15877218_1427179973961617_7421129624022679552_n.jpg2017-01-05
Paloma AlvesPaloma Alves2017-01-04Day 3. Today you have to practice being aware of what is going on around you. Listen, look around, notice things and other people, how do they seem to feel – shy, lonely, happy, sad? If you are sitting in your own little world, with your smartphones, headphones or reading a book on your kindle, you don’t see the world around you, someone could enter train with a gun and you wouldn’t even notice. See opportunities to help, or else someday somebody might need your help and wouldn’t be able to provide it. Train your situational awareness no matter where you are and when. awarenesssituationhelpopportunityiphoneheadphoneskindletrainingheroesDenmarkhipheroicimaginationhttps://scontent.cdninstagram.com/t51.2885-15/e35/15803674_110348489469710_3951432713331802112_n.jpg2017-01-04
Paloma AlvesPaloma Alves2017-01-03Day 2. Yesterday we had to make our hero pledge. Today I’ll take it one step further by encouraging you to work on your heroic imagination – because heroism begins in the mind. This will be our foundation. The idea is to imagine yourself doing heroic things throughout the day. Imagine situations where your help is needed. For instance, how would you act if someone said something racist or offensive to someone else? How would you act if you saw someone lying unconscious on the ground? If someone fell on the train tracks? If someone was getting bullied? If someone walked into the train with a gun?What would be a clever way to act heroically in these situations? When you visualize situations you prepare for them and know how to act when something occurs. The more we imagine ourselves doing heroic things, the more likely we are to do heroic things. Imagine other situations if you like. Choose one or more, and imagine it at least 3 times today. I would like you to do this everyday, but do it at least today. heroicimaginationexercicesvisualizationcolorrainbowsraindropsactionhttps://scontent.cdninstagram.com/t51.2885-15/e35/15624310_1651031581869418_1655968861956079616_n.jpg2017-01-03
Paloma AlvesPaloma Alves2017-01-02Day 1. Before we begin our journey you'll need to make a public declaration, that says you are willing to be a hero in waiting. A pledge to act, when you experience a situation where you feel something is wrong, and to develop your heroic abilities and refine them. Most important of all, you have to believe in the heroic capabilities within you and others. heroismpledgebelieveactionheroHIPHeroicImaginationProjecthttps://scontent.cdninstagram.com/t51.2885-15/e35/15802794_156523281499633_6728531517221371904_n.jpg2017-01-02
Paloma AlvesPaloma Alves2017-01-01Happy New Year Heroes And Heroines. I hope you all had a great New Years Eve!! I'm looking so much forward to share exercises with you in the nearest future, also I'll be following them myself 5 days a week. Let's make the world a better place, with small actions everyday. newyear2017fireworksherohipheroineheroesmakeachangetodaychangetheworldhttps://scontent.cdninstagram.com/t51.2885-15/e35/15623800_369470276739881_5230572199982661632_n.jpg2017-01-01
Paloma AlvesPaloma Alves2016-12-29What it is about: “Heroes are ordinary people whose social action is Extra Ordinary. Who acts when others are passive.” - Quote by Phillip Zimbardo
Inside each and everyone of us there is a hero or heroine, waiting to take action when the right time comes along. This page is about training the hero within you, to inspire you to take action, to build up your courage, to fight for peace, to speak up when others are quite and passive, to take action on behalf of others, to defend moral values, to fight evil. Since the antidote to evil is heroism, we need all the heroes we can get. Heroes are rare, but you have all the capacity to be one. Lets quit standing on the sideline feeling powerless and let’s do something about it, big and small, step by step. Alone we might feel powerless but together we can make a difference.
Our mission: is to give you skills and awareness needed to make effective decisions in challenging situations. We will do this by providing exercises, some of them will be based on scientific research, and other exercises will not, but they will be useful for this purpose. HIPheroicimaginationprojectheroordinarypeacejusticehumanityphillipzimbardoinspireheroismhttps://scontent.cdninstagram.com/t51.2885-15/e35/15624781_186916665109691_3654736406883860480_n.jpg2016-12-29